Is is stupid to be upset?

Its my 36th birthday tommorrow and my partner hans't bothered to buy me a present.





We haven't got much money but he could have got me a little something. He asked me what I wanted and I suggested something but he told me today that he hadn't managed to find it in the shops. I asked whether he had got anything for me and he admitted he hadn't.





I was really upset so he went out and bought me some flowers which he says would be my present from him and my baby son. He also says he has a card for me which I will have tommorrow.





My mum is coming to visit tommorrow and she says she has a present for me but thats all I'll be getting or so it seems. We can't even go out for a meal as we don't have the money. I don't feel theres any point in bothering with my birthday this year. I feel so miserable.

Is is stupid to be upset?
Boo Hoo I feel so sad for you.......wait a minute no I don't!!! I feel sad for your husband to have such a spoiled, materialistic wife who thinks that her birth and presence in the world is so important that she should be honored and pampered even when "we haven't got much money". Be grateful for what you DO have and not whine for more.
Reply:I understand and it's not stupid - maybe give him a break and next year he will be more considerate.


Meanwhile - HAPPY BIRTHDAY and many happy returns!!!!
Reply:dont feel bad. men arent thoughtful by nature. be glad u have someone who cares about u and a healthy baby by ur side. gifts could never substitute for that. once u do have more money i bet he'll get u something nice u deserve...enjoy ur day and happy birthday. cheer up!
Reply:Try not to get too upset, remember not to get him anything for his birthday then he'll know what it's like. happy birthday for tomorrow and don't let it spoil your day..what goes around comes around girl lol :-) x
Reply:Lighten up. My God, drama queen. Just have a happy b-day.
Reply:I'm sorry your upset. But you really shouldn't be. Why were you asking if he got you something when it wasn't your birthday until tomorrow. You should have just been happy he got you a card. Presents aren't everything. If you have his love that's better than anything he could buy.





Happy Birthday......
Reply:upset is inevitable. but you can learn to reduce its frequency and intensity with guidence and practice. upset is natural but gets nothing done but tires you out emotionally. you can learn all about it if interested - do searches on the web. the answer is there for you. if you really have the will and brains.
Reply:Grow up!!!





You have a gorgeous son, a loving partner, a parent who is willing to visit you and give you a gift!!!





Be greatful, some people are homeless, penniless, childless and without family.





Think eh?!
Reply:First ... Happy Birthday! =)





You are 36 ... so grow up! We don't always get what we want. He DID ask what you would like, so you know he was thinking about you and your wants and needs. That alone is a lot more than many husbands do for their wives!





When you got upset because he hadn't bought you anything and you nagged/whined/pouted/yelled, cried (whatever!), he went out and bought you flowers and a card, so he DOES care. Accept that he is doing the best he can right now, and appreciate all the good things you DO have ... a loving husband and a loved baby son ... and you still have a living Mother, who loves you enough to come visit and bring a present.





Concentrate on the good things you have in your life and your positive attitude will help attract more good things to you. Negativity repels good things! Why should God (the universe, anyone) give you more good things when you don't appreciate the blessings you already have!??





Try to live by Philippians 4:8 (KJV) ... "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."





Don't be a brat! Be grateful for the blessing you DO have!!





Bake yourself a nice birthday cake. Make party hats out of newspaper (the comics section works great!) http://www.creativekidsathome.com/activi...


and CELEBRATE!





Tell your hubby that what you REALLY want for your birthday is ... a bubble bath for two (let him have the end with the faucet since it is YOUR birthday!) and a foot rub (or a back rub ... or a full-body massage), and a handmade coupon for four hours of him watching the baby while you are free to read, exercise, go grocery shopping unencumbered, etc. ... all of which are very pampering for you, and won't cost him a cent!





Smile. Dress in your prettiest outfit. Look in your mirror and tell that woman how beautiful she is, and how fortunate she is to have a loving family. Then be nice to your hubby, your son, and your Mother. And ENJOY your birthday!


%26lt;(=) (You with a party hat!!)
Reply:yes.





no offense, but you sound rather selfish. After you turn 10 years old, you don't get presents anymore. You should concentrate on what you give.





Are you giving your time to a charitable organization, like, helping the homeless or such? Are you helping older people shovel snow, and that sort of thing. It seems like you're focused on things.





My favorite gift of all times was when my fiance showed up out of the blue with a bunch of daisies he spent a lot of time picking for me, and came over grinning and holding them out for me. It was so cute, and said SO much. His love is the most precious gift I have. That and his helping me in many other ways.
Reply:he bought you flowers, thats nice. cant remember the last time a guy bought me flowers.





if he went out and spent loads of money neither of you could afford, that wouldnt be right either.





your probably just a little down.





i hope he makes you a nice dinner and makes a fuss of you tomorrow. try and enjoy your birthday x





p.s. my ex didnt get me anything for my 30th and he could afford it!!
Reply:Happy Birthday :-)


Of course you're upset - you're a woman and he forgot your birthday. He'll remember it next time.
Reply:Yes its stupid to be upset. You said yourself that you both were broke. instead of him buying you a gift you two should pay bills as a roof, utilities, and food are more important. Also you should be glad that your mom is visiting.
Reply:its really not about the presents. Birthday is a time when you should spend with your close ones. so what theres no diamond ring or fancy dinner. you should feel bless to have a husband and a son to spend your birthday with.
Reply:birthdays don't need to be spectacular. all it is is a special day for that birthday person. just if your husband cooks you dinner and picks up the house and watches baby while you take a hot bath would be a great day! tangible things are unnessecary
Reply:I would feel pretty miserable at that too. I normally go shopping with my husband just before my birthday and he buys me something. It means I never get a suprise but I'm getting something I want. Men are never good at present buying - I just think it's easier to take them by the hand.
Reply:Happy Birthday to you. And don't hold it against him too much he's probably just a bit tired with all the work! Have a lovely day x
Reply:Dont be sad. Theres always next year.. and the year after that ect.





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Reply:hey girl you have a partner a baby and a mum. you should not expect too much. a lot of people do not have the blessings you have.
Reply:no
Reply:Oh sweetheart, Happy Birthday from me and all my family and friends.





Your mum is coming tomorrow with a present and this will be given with love, make a nice meal for her and make it into a party.
Reply:you need some serious loving, your man needs to appreciate you more, he needs to pamper you and take you out 2 morrow, if he doesn't then call me i will lol
Reply:Dont be upset... Maybe itz a undercover surprise!!!!
Reply:if he loves you he will try to make it a special day with od without money-- happy birthday!!
Reply:It's your special day. Remember that. A gift from a loved one can never define you as a person, or even how your day will be. Don't let anyone else define your day....One more tip sometimes the best things in life are free. What can you do in your day that can bring balance and harmony in your life if even for a day? What if you turn around and create an elaborate dinner, something you never cooked before in candle light, a bubble bath, creating a journal and including new goals, wants, needs and desires. Taking a walk with your family, making a list of all the things you want to do and commit to doing before your life is over. What about making a card for those you love and letting them know why they are important to you, or even better yet, make a birthday card for yourself and list at least ten reasons why you love you. Sometimes it can be so much more rewarding in giving than recieving because it's from the heart. I don't want you to disregard your hurt feelings as you are entitled to them but don;t let them get the better of you, be greatful that you now have the tools to recreate your day~ Happy Birthday! And may you have many more~ Love and wishes always~


Antounette {hugs}
Reply:There are people that don't even have food to eat on their birthday, so I'm having a hard time shedding a tear for you because all you are getting is flowers, a card, and one gift from your mom.
Reply:is it better to feel bad that he didn't get you anything or happy that he did at least try its hard when moneys tight and i haven't had a Christmas or birthday prezzie from my other half for a few years but hes had nothing from me either we just make sure our kids have good Christmases and birthdays that's better than any present he could get me
Reply:Yes you should be - money aside it IS the thought that counts. I have never woke up to a birthday card for the past 10 years and this year I told my husband that the date is not a suprise for him so I would appreciate a card on the actual morning of my birthday, rather than later in the evening, especially seeing as for his mums birthday I trecked through pouring rain with 3 kids just to make sure his mum had a card and bunch of flowers on HER birthday, so the least he could do to show his appreciation for the things I do for him is to make an effort for me. I explained to him that for me the little things are important.
Reply:Don't give up on your b-day! Enjoy your time with your mum and baby son. As far as your boy friend is concerned, don't let him ruien your day.
Reply:nope.x
Reply:It won't always be like this. Things always change.


Try not to blame each other and argue. It is hard on everyone when money is tight.





I've been in this situation several times. I alway promised my self that next year...it will be different!...and guess what?...it was!





I know it's difficult but try to see the ridiculous side of this. I know it's a terrible cliche...but one day, you will laugh about it.



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