Are we ready to move on ????

MY thoughts! I feel like my 6yr old relationship is going down the drain...Little by little evry day, I'm finding out that we are very different.(really) EXAMPLES: He will never do any thing for me, unless I ask...help with the baby, help with the car, help with the house in general. The simple and nice thing I do like: getting his clothes and stuff ready for work evry morning is just not making him responsible and sometimes thats me bugging in into people things! ( people) I thought we were partners...we do extra things for eachother because thats love. He will never come with flowers, chocolate or any nice thing... He doesn't want a routine, he wants


surprises;when we are least expecting it. But hey is more then 6yr I have been waiting or expecting something nice....Only Holidays! He doesn't help around the house, cause he works/...I stay home taking care of the baby! To him I don't do much..I'm expecting another baby. WHen I used to work...it was not a hard job! WHAT ????

Are we ready to move on ????
Honestly, I don't think you have much to complain about. This is just not in the nature of a male to think about little things he can do to make your day beautiful like coming home wiht flowers. It's normal. And men rarely volunteer to help around the house, but if he does help when you ask and does it without rolling his eyes, you have a great man there. Seriously. Look around, read some posts on Yahoo Answers to see what kind of men some other women have to deal with, and you will realize that you don't have it that bad. As long as he respects you, if faithful to you, cares about you, leaving your husband because of something like this would be a very immature thing to do. Whatever you want him to do for you, just ask. If he is a reasonable guy he will try to accomodate for you need. Life is not a romantic movie where he showers you with unexpected gifts and takes you away on a surprise vacation in Paris. It is way more prosaic and involves mostly hard work and compromising. If you decide to move on, please don't expect to find a man who will turn your life into a fairy tale.
Reply:A lot of men are like that(not all men) they just have to reminded and asked to do things otherwise theyre oblivious. At least if you ask him to do things he does them right? Have you told him that you want flowers or chocolate or anything like that? Maybe thats all you need to do. One thing you have to remember is that men dont think like women. But you said yourself, you do extra things for each other b/c thats love, so just communicate with your hubby, he sounds like a good man. Maybe he just needs a little extra guidance, thats all.
Reply:The answer of your question is "NO"


Actually through your question I understood the difficulties of my wife, it means you need to discuss with him first, tell him about your feelings, I hope your problem will be solve.


If still you face the same problem plz contact me we will think another solution. OK do not worry.


Wish you very good luck.


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Reply:you know, everytime i watch dr. phil with my wife i realize where i'm lacking and work on bettering myself...my wife stays home, i work 65-70 hours a week. her full time job is being a mother, a chef, planning most things, accountant...heck, i'd feel like sh!t if i dumped more work on her. I'm happy to come home exausted and see her smile when I help out. try dr. phil or a really good heart to heart...start with my feelings are shattered and if you think sex is happening before i'm mended again your dead wrong...that might get his attention...





i'm sorry he's being a typical man and i wish you peace my friend
Reply:Sounds like you two need to talk. I'm sure hes got a point of view as well. He does do something for you, he works and probably hates his job like most people. men are really bad mind readers and us chics tend to just expect men to know what to do. It sucks to always have to ask but thats communication and if you ask and he does it then it sounds like the system works. why is it so hard for you to ask? It sounds like your swaeting the small stuff and that your really tired from the daily grind of life. he probably is too people aren't that different and if you've been with him for 6 years then your probably more like him then you realize. Valentines day is coming use it as an oppurtunity to speak your mind. let him know you dont always want to get out his clothes for work but you do it to help and support him and if your important to him and i'm sure you are or he wouldn't be there you might reach some compromise. relationships and marriages the stuff that builds familes and lasts for 60 years is not all sunshine and butterflies and candy and flowers do not make a happy relationship.
Reply:u got lots on ur mind!



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