What to do when my mom talks bad about my husband?

my husband is not the perfect husband...but who is perfect. mom and dad came to live in our house bevause dad lost his job and so my husband got in contact with some people in our wa state long story short my dad got a really good job doing what he used to do back in california but he gets paid way more allthis because he took the time to look for a job for my dad...he came and got hired. my husband also went to pick up my mother from cali and drove her to washington on his weekend off. I say all this because he is being nothing but nice and welcoming to my parents.I am pregnant about to have baby in a week and my mother just goes on and on about how bad my husband acts sometimes I think we have flaws but I feel loved by him we had a little figtht me and him and he apologized this morning I found red roses on my table and some chocolates I was happy until my mother started going off about how wrong he was for giving me flowers he was like...yeah he thinks flowers are going to make u feel better...my mom always talking bad my ex husband was mean evil I divorced him but he is judging my new husband like the same no man is good no boyfriend then when I am alone she talks oh he was so nice....... what should I do how come she is this way why can she just say bad things aabout him I am pregnant I am so hurt

What to do when my mom talks bad about my husband?
Tell mom you do not appreciate what she is saying and tell her further, that if she can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.





Phurface
Reply:Politely say ...





" Mom, I know you care about me and you're entitled to your opinion, but you are talking about my husband. I love you dearly, but I'd appreciate if you would keep your well-intentioned comments to yourself because it hurts me when you say these things."
Reply:I think you should tell her the truth ... you love her and you value her opinion but she is making things worse and she is not helping. Tell her what you said here ... no one is perfect but the fact of the matter is your husband loves you AND point out to your mother the wonderful way he has been so helpful to both of your parents.





The only way to make it stop is to tell her directly to stop. She needs to back off and stay out of your relationship. If you need her advice ... you will ask!





I think your husband sounds like a wonderful man!
Reply:Talk to your mom about staying out of your business. Don't tell her your private stuff.
Reply:I think the best you can do here is sit down and ask her why she makes negative comments about him. There must be some reason, maybe you do not perceive it, but the fact that she does, is just as important. If she gives you substantial reasons, you may want to talk to your husband next and address the issues. let them know that it hurts to see their dislike for one another. Stress how important it is for you for everyone to get along, especially now that there will be a new addition to the family. The last thing you need is a break in the family and have your child miss out on having grandma in the baby's life.





Be sure to listen and don't disregard your mom's feelings, but at the same time don't react on anything until you get both sides straight.





Good luck and conrats on the new baby!!!
Reply:You should always back up your spouse. Tell her if she can't accept your husband then she will have no relationship with her grandchild. She needs to learn to show some respect now because it will eventually cause major problems when your child is old enought to understand.
Reply:Tell her to pull her head in !!!!!
Reply:tell her you love her, but to butt out. tell her it hurts you to hear her talk about the man you love, and you are a grown woman



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