Sister in law is rude, What to do without becomeing the bad girl?

My sister in law is pregnant and due in May. I have done so much for her and she has not appreciated anything!!! I used to let her stay with us, she would eat our food, never pick up after herself, never thanked us. I was her maid of honor for her wedding and was never thanked for anything I did. (I did everything on my own, b/c the family is disfunctional.) I made the flowers for the wedding ect........ Now that she is pregnant I let her borrow a ton of Maternity clothes, baby clothes, I made a beautiful diaper cake and did the shower planning as well, she never even said thank you!!! I also let her borrow my changing table that is a heirloom and she PAINTED it!!!! She did not have my permission and in front of a room full of my in laws and hers she said "oh, I hope you didnt mind" I walked out! I am so mad! She wants me to be there when she has the baby and I am so mad that she still hasnt grown up that I dont know if I can do this anymore! What would you do?

Sister in law is rude, What to do without becomeing the bad girl?
Talk with your sister-in-law and tell her what you've told us. She probably has no clue how you're really feeling, unless, of course, you tell her.





It sounds as though she's never been taught how important manners and consideration for others are; so, before she gets any older and makes anyone else furious, you would be doing her a great (and, perhaps, last?) favor by giving her some instructions on how adults behave.





Good luck!
Reply:She's an ungrateful *****. Kick her as.s to the curb.
Reply:You can't just let this bottle up in side, talk to her let her know how this is affecting you........ she need to get he act together, she will be a mom soon......
Reply:I think you should ask yourself , do I expect too much out of people? Do you have to be thanked for everything? You did so much, I I I


think about it dear
Reply:I have TWO sister in laws just like yours. I WALKED AWAY. I no longer deal with them- taking me for everything that I am willing to give them and I no longer allow myself to be treated this way.





It is slowly killing them that they do not know why I no longer call or come over....I just left them.





Don't be available for her - and be no ones door mat.





You deserve better!
Reply:Let her defend for herself. When she realizes that you were the one to help her get on her feet, acknowledge it, but tell her that she is going to be a parent soon, so she needs to clean up her act a little bit. Make sure that if you give her something to borrow, tell her how you expect it to be returned.
Reply:well i think u should keeep arguing with here but do it in a way that the family or whoever is around 2 here her before u reply. the truth will come out soon
Reply:Just start pulling away from her. Don't be available when she needs things. Not only will you avoid frustration from being taken for granted but she will have to do some growing up. When you see that she's growing up you can start making yourself available again a little at a time. I've done this with more than a few people in my family and it can take quite a while for some people to get it but it does work.
Reply:i would confront her u did so MUCH for HER u need to to let her kno ur not her maid and u need to be appreciated!! idk much but i kno how to lay down the law. tell appreciate ur work or she won't get ur work. do it herself and if she can't pay ur bill don't use ur skill!! SHOW WHOSE BOSS!
Reply:girl do what you need to do alwasy go with gut instinct I can not stand people like that but if you keep doing everything for her she will never learn to make it on her own and you are a good person for doing what you are doing for her..i was in a similiar situation with 5 kids involved i helped out a single dad for a few weeks her said he appectiated it but then he became dependent on me and know i could not say no to the kids afer a few months of being taken advantage of i told him i was done to lose my number and don't even look at me when we pick up the kids from school .. it is hard because i love the kids to death but for you own sanity and family sake do what you need to do no matter what peopel think of you you did what you could have and more..
Reply:You Really need to stand up for your self...i know my sister in law came and stayed with us..for a while..and she yelled at me..while i was talking to my mum on the phone..she wnated to know who i was talking to at 12 30 at night!!!..i didnt say anything to her at that time cause i thought it would be rude she is a guest...but soo many times i have slapped myself for not standing up for myself...so dont be in the same boat as me...get up and mean it..Good luck!!



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