Flower girl question?

My roommate (who will be one of my bridesmaids) has a 18 month old baby, who, by the time of my wedding will be just over 2 years old. She's cute, but I don't know if she will walk down the aisle, let alone sit up front during the ceremony.





My other option is to have some people from my church who have the CUTEST little girl in the world, I think she's probably about 4 or 5. But she is absolutely adorable, to be my flower girl.





Should I pick the girl who has some meaning and would look great in my pictures, stand up front totally fine or the girl who might have issues walking down the aisle but has meaning?





Meaning or looks?

Flower girl question?
Meaning.





Think about this:





20 or so years go by and you're looking at your album. You look at the perfectly groomed, smiling flower girl and can't even remember her name.





Yikes.





Now picture this:





You're looking at the same wedding album 20 years later and you see an adorable picture of your friend's baby, who is now a grown woman. Warm fuzzies all over.





My best friend has an 18 month old daughter, who I definately want in my wedding. She'll be about 2 and a half by then. Will she throw flowers? Who knows? Walk all the way down the aisle or stop and wave at people? Who knows? Trip on her dress and fall flat on her face? Who knows?





If you want something done perfectly, get an adult to do it. But if it's about cuteness and meaning and warm fuzzies, my vote would always be for someone I love over someone I don't really care about who happens to have a more developed brain.
Reply:2yo is really too young to be a flower girl. She won't be able to stand at the front at all, and she will be calling for her Mom the whole time. If you really want a flower girl, then go with the 5yo. If you'd rather not have a "unimportant" flower girl, then just skip it all together, it is not necessary to have a flower girl or ring bearer.
Reply:i never understood why someone would have a certain person just so things would look good, i dont like it myself. i would go with the one who has meaning.
Reply:This is really something only you can decide. However, there is the option of having two flower girls. You could have them walk down the aisle together, holding hands, so that the older one is helping the younger one. And when it comes to sitting up front, there's no guarantee that the 4 year old will do it either. I have done weddings where panties were shown and fits were thrown. I've even have some girls around 6 or 7 get stage fright when seeing all the people and refuse to walk down the aisle.





Just keep in mind that there are no guarantees with either one. I'm sure whatever your choice it will end up beautifully.
Reply:It just depends what you want. I had a 2 1/2 year old in my wedding and it was a catastrophe. If you want her to walk down he isle and be good during the ceremony you should probably go with the 5 year old and hope it doesnt hurt your roommates feelings. If you have an old person for the ring bear than the 2 year old might do fine going down the aisle but if you dont care what she does after that than have the 2 year old. To be honest you will be so involved in the ceremony and you will not even realize what she is doing. If her mother is in the wedding she might be able to help her. Again it just depends how well you want the ceremony to go.
Reply:I would use them both. The 5-year-old could guide the little one and show her what to do. If the little one doesn't do it "correctly," so what? Weddings shouldn't be about perfection. They should be about family and happiness and should be a celebration.
Reply:The 2 year problaray wont walk down the alise. I used my cousin is 6 and she been in 3 weddings already and this was the first time she actually walked down the alise correctly. After she got to the front though I had her seat down with her parents so she would move around up front because stand still is hard enough for adult let alone children. Good Luck.
Reply:My pastor told me that the kids shouldn't be up front for the whole wedding. They walk down the aisle, and then sit in one of the front rows with their parents.


I don't know if that would be an option for you, then you could go with the girl with meaning.
Reply:Meaning, definitely. Your wedding is something that basically gives you another life to begin. Basically, weddings have meaning. If you want yours to have meaning, let it have meaning.
Reply:It's your wedding, pick the one you really want.
Reply:Go with the little girl who means something to you. It doesn't matter that she's might not 'perform' as well. The cutest things about little flower girls and ring bearers is when they're not sure how to act or where to go. It's comic relief and it eases tension.
Reply:I had the same problem. I loved both the girls that I wanted to be flower girl but ended up choosing the 5 year old instead of the 2. Mostly because of the fact that my 2 year old son is our ring bearer and I feel that the 5 year old would have a better time getting him down the aisle than another 2 year old. However, if you feel that the 2 year old is more important to you and you absolutely must have her as part of your wedding their are things you can do to make it a little easier. You can have the ring bearer wheel her down in a stroller or wagon that is decorated to match your colors. Hope everything works out. Good Luck. :0)
Reply:I'd go with meaning. Seems silly to have someone you don't really know in your wedding just so it's easier.
Reply:Hi. I would NOT pick the 2 year old. It's iffy with flower girls even 4 or 5.....they see the people and get nervous and refuse to do it. I don't see a 2 year old being able to do that.





I would go with the older girl. But you don't have to have a flower girl at all if you don't want one.
Reply:we had a two year old flower girl in our son's wedding, she was perfect. she was aware every eye was on her so she took advantage of it to show them all how cute she is! of course we had a couple of practice sessions with a pretend bouquet and the front hall in our home! lol


she didn't stand through the ceremony she walked up to the front, turned around so everyone could admire her, then went and sat in the front pew ready to rejoin the procession once the service was over.


if you can afford it, why not have both of the little ones! that way the littlest could hold hands with the 4 year old if you are concerned about her behavior. but i have to tell you, some of the sweetest moments in weddings are the children as they make their way to the alter.


happy wedding~and a very happy marriage.
Reply:I had both. The one and a half year old walked down the aisle until she got to her mother's seat. She was absolutely adorable and gave character to all the pictures she was in. She was definitely a crowd pleaser. Then I had the 5 year old that did what she was supposed to do. She walked the whole aisle and stood at the front for the entire ceremony and posed and smiled for each picture. Each did exactly what I wanted them to do. It was picture perfect and yours will be too. I think you should go with both of them. And luckily the little one's mother will be at the front, so she may walk all the way!
Reply:You should go with the girl who means something to you. Don't pick your wedding party soley based on how the pictures will look or whether or not they will walk down the aisle without any issues. Your wedding is a very important and special day in your life and your attendants should be people who are special to you as well. My flower girl is only 18mos and I know she will not walk down the aisle so I am having her sister who is a bridesmaid pull her in a wagon. I think it will be adorable. You could use a baby carriage as well, depending on how fancy the ceremony will be. My ring bearer is only 2 1/2 and I can't wait to see what he will do when he walks down the aisle. Some of the best moments happen when you let lil ones take part in the action! Congrats on the wedding!
Reply:If the looks of your wedding party and photos mean more than a kid you actually know...why not just hire a child actor? So what if she doesn't stand perfectly still or forgets to toss the rose petals? Maybe she'll do something wonderfully cute and you'll never forget that moment. Take a chance.
Reply:well the two year old is not really going to be able to walk down by herself and stand during the ceremony. It may be a little distracting too. OR you could have both. and have the 4 yr old hold the little one's hand and maybe just have the little one's mom waiting on the front row and just not have her stand on stage. and the pictures would be sweet w/ both girls.
Reply:You can have both of them. Then have them walk down together with the older one holding the little ones hand. It would be cute that way. You would not have to choose either. And who says the ceremony has to be perfect. A little laugh during the ceremony is natural.
Reply:How about having both of them, and the older one can help the younger go up the aisle.





My older son was in one sister's wedding a few days after he turned 2. He was fine. The next year, the other sister got married and he was in that one too, along with his little brother who was about 18 months old. He kind of dragged his flower girl down the aisle, but he was fine.





Your roomie's feelings will be hurt if you don't have her kid. What do the other people mean to you?
Reply:If the 2 year old is not shy, she shouldn't have a problem walking down the aisle. And if her mother is a bridesmaid, why can't she make sure her daughter sits up front and is focused for the cameras?
Reply:Two years old is kind of young to be a flower girl, but if this child has a special meaning to you use her, but give her the option of backing out at the last minute. Don't ask the other girl because she is cute. That would be shallow, and if you don't know her that well why have her up there?




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