Questions about my wedding?

Ok, first off... Tell if this sounds ok or stupid.... I have two little girls from a prevoius marriage aged 3 and 4, they are going going to be our flower girls. We just had a baby boy, he will be 6 months old at the time of our wedding, and we wanted all of our children in our wedding so we are going to make our son or ring bearer. Since he will not be able to walk my step dad is going to carry him in the wedding. I wanted my step dad because he has been in my life since I was a child and he has been more of a dad to me than my real dad at times, so he had to be in my wedding and since he dosn't feel right walking me down, (so my real dad will) I thought him carrying our son would work that way he is still part of my wedding.


Does that sound stupid???





Second, does anyone has any unique ideas for our wedding and reseption? Since we just had our son that was a 34 week premmie and had to be in the hospital for 12 days and has several medical problems now, we do not have money.

Questions about my wedding?
That does not sound stupid at all. It is awesome that you are having both of your father's honored in the wedding and that you are including all of your children. And plus, this is YOUR wedding and you can do whatever you want! If you are getting married in the summer, I would suggest a wedding outside at a local park or recreation area, maybe by the water. Some places you don't even have to pay for, they are just public property. Others you may have to pay a small fee. And you can have the wedding and the reception at that same park. Get some good music and burn it onto CD's instead of hiring a DJ...or get a local youngster to do this for you. Make it all really casual, which I think people prefer anyway. It could be the best time of your life!
Reply:I think your step-dad carrying ur son down the isle is a cute idea. That is a great way to include both of them in your wedding.





You can keep the reception simple by having it at someone's house and having finger food instead of a full meal.
Reply:It doesn't sound stupid at all, that is really sweet.
Reply:First off I dont think if would be bad if you didnt get them gifts. You asked them to be in your wedding because they are important to you, they will understand if they are true to you. Secondly, I think that is amazing that you and your stepfather have such a great bond (I am very close with my stepfather but Im also very close to my real father) My fiance and I are getting married next year we have a boy and a girl. Our boy will be two and our girl will be one. I am having my sister (who will be 8) as my flower girl and my son as the ring bearer, so they will walk down the isle together. My daughter however is still going to be too young to walk down the isle so Im having my mother and stepfather walk with her down the isle to their seats. Its great to have your children in it even if they are too young, you will look back and they will look back and be able to say "I was there when my parents got married"
Reply:I love your idea with having your step dad and son be the ring bearer.. but I've got nothing for you for the reception.





Congrats
Reply:That is the cutest idea ever never second guess yourself and besides that its your wedding :) you can do what you want. Dont let people make decisions for you that will make everything go wrong and by the way your mother seems very nice. There are many ways to get by some things without spending loads of money you can decorate your head table with flowers and have simple center pieces a water bowl with floating candles, a bag of rose pedals which are like 10 dollars and you can by some glitter to sprinkle on top if you want to put some crushed glass in them they are also cheap they have them in all different colors that will save you loads and its beautiful your wedding day will be special either way having the people you love there will make it a great





congrats it will all work out in the end :) i hope your son feels better
Reply:I think your stepdad carring your son is sweet.





Some ideas... Once I saw a ring bearer that was about your son's age being pulled down the aisle in a classic red wagon all decorated with ribbon. it was adorable.





To save money on wedding decorations, get married at a time when the church will already be decorated. Easter, Christmas... Also, if you talk to the church, you might be able to find a day there is another bride who would be willing to either leave her decorations behind or split the cost with you.





skip the wedding planner (unless the church provides it free) and go to a local rental place. You can get a pretty arch for the chapel and some basic centerpieces cheap. Or make your own centerpieces - at glass stores you can get mirror scraps cut to 8" square (or whatever size), then at a craft store buy cheap candle cups (or buy sets of juice glasses at a discount store) and put a basic white votive candle in, then surround with either ribbon or confetti or inexpensive flower heads like dasies or carnations in your color.





for reception location, there are halls that usually are somewhat decorated already. I went to a wedding at one where they already had twinkle lights up around the room. The bride just got white and silver helium baloons (the latex kind, not fancy) and tied white and silver ribbon to them and put them in bunches around the walls. It was a magical effect!





for food, buffet style or just orderves (I KNOW i spelled that wrong but I tried about five times before I gave up!)





If you want, make cds of the music you want played and just ahve someone in charge of switching them out. Even if you download every song off itunes or something, you'll only be spending a hundred bucks or so as opposed to how much for a DJ?





There are a lot of funny places you cansave money too. There are lots of things you can buy off ebay. My friend saved money on her wedding shoes by having her mom decorate a pair of (no-name versions of) Keds with lace and pearly beads.





congratulations!
Reply:It sounds special :)





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Reply:the family church. most churches have a large room they use for get-togethers and if you are a member they are generally free. so have your reception there - that would save you rental fees for a hall. they usually have all the chairs and tables as well as some will even have the tablecloths.


as for your wedding, why not have it in the morning and then have a tea afterwards? you could have finger sandwiches, veggie tray, tarts, cookies, bars with tea and coffee. that type of thing. and they can easily be made up at home so your costs would be significantly lower than having a reception later in the day when folks will expect a meal.


instead of a big fancy wedding cake you could go to costco and order one or two large slab cakes decorated for under $40.00, and they do pretty darn good decorating there! they also have several choices of cake. we use their cakes for receptions, birthdays, anniversaries, retirement parties, etc.


you could use pretty paper plates, with white paper napkins and tablecloths if the church doesn't have the linens and utensils available.


invitations - you could buy preprinted ones and fill in the pertinent information on them yourself and save a small fortune in printing costs. many office supply stores carry a good selection of them.


ask a friend to take photos for you or give several of your friends a disposable camera to take candid shots with - you'd be surprised at how many truly great photos you will end up with!


don't bother renting tuxes, and gowns, simply buy yourself a pretty little dress thats really dainty and feminine, put your m.o.h. in a pretty dress, get the men into dress pants, shirts and ties, or if possible a suit, your little ones in cute little off the rack dresses and you are ready to go!


you don't need big bouquets, a single long stemmed rose or calla lily would be beautiful on its own.


as for your baby being carried down the aisle, sounds cute! and a lovely way to bring your step-dad into the ceremony.


as for your m.o.h. and best man - they know you so well, they are aware of your current limitations so give them each a lovely thank you card with an invitation to your home for dinner - believe me they will totally understand.


don't waste a single penny on 'favors' - they are a waste of money and few people really ever want them. just make sure you send your all your guest thank you cards as soon as possible after the wedding.


honeymoon - why not get someone to take the kiddies overnight, you and your hubby stay home, order in dinner, have a bottle of wine cooling in the fridge and enjoy the quiet! you don't have to have an exotic location for a honeymoon, you just have to have the man you love at your side.





just remember, all you really need for a wedding is the bride, the groom, a minister, a couple of rings and a licence. everything else is just icing on the cake!


good luck sweetie, and have a joyous wedding and life!
Reply:That's my wedding date too! =) Did you realize it is 06-07-08? I didn't plan it that way on purpose (I didn't even want to be a June bride), but that's how it happened. Easy date to remember!





I think having your step-dad carry your son down the isle will be a very cute idea. That's the sort of thing that will make the guests go "awwww!" Especially if they are wearing matching big and little tuxes or something.





I'm not good with unique ideas, but I am good at keeping things cheap, so if you have any specific questions about how to save, email me!





Congrats!
Reply:That sounds really sweet. My sis had the same drama with our two dads, and soon I will too, so I feel your pain. Ok, so please don't be offended, because I am judging by your avatar, but are you Hispanic? My fiance is and he talked to me about padrinos? He says they are like sponsors who basically donate $50 each to cover their own cost at the reception. He said I can ask my people to be sponsors and not call them padrinos, but white people DO NOT ask other people for money... I know it's all really cultural, so... =]





Backyard bbq's are affordable :)
Reply:i think that is about the sweetest thing that i have ever heard! i think your step dad carrying your son will be wonderful!
Reply:I don't think it sounds stupid. It is nice that you want him to be in the wedding, and I bet he appreciates it. We did the lighting of the candle at our wedding, and when it came time for my parents to light I had my stepfather go up with them. As for ideas I don't have any. Does any of your family have a big enough place that they could hold it there?
Reply:I think your stepfather walking him down the aisle sounds perfect and absolutely adorable! As far as the wedding and reception, do you know anyone where you can have it at their house? You could rent a reception hall and have both there, like at the VA. Some places will already be decorated for the holidays so the decor wouldn't be too expensive to just add a few things. Just some ideas.
Reply:Thats a really lovely idea to involve everyone in the service, especially the 'dad' dilema. contact that show, for better or for worse.
Reply:Just wanted to say I just heard of a wedding where they had their older child pull their little baby down the aisle ina wagon. I heard it was too cute, just wanted to tell you in case in might work here. good luck!



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